Friday, 7 July 2017

Pay close attention to those not clapping


'Pay close attention to those not' clapping 


Kings & Queens today is another life lesson/ words of wisdom post mixed in with some fashion details of a shoot I did awhile ago. My friend Micah (Her Blog) and I were talking about the ‘friends’ we have that don’t seem to show any form interest or proudness in certain things we do such as blogging or Youtube. The point we kept coming back to is that we have all these close ‘friends’ but ‘why did they not show any interest when we started our blog’, ‘Why do no they not show that they are proud of us’, ‘Have they even taken the time to read a blog post or watch one of our videos’ etc. If these people are such close friends of ours where is the support, the encouragement or just a simple text to acknowledge what we are doing. I mean we are friends and I want good things for you as much as I want for myself because nothing is better than women encouraging and praising each other for their work.

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Its amazing how it is only now that we are starting to realise these things. I have people that I know but we are not particularly close and we don’t speak but somehow they seem to support me more. People from secondary school or sixth form that I barely spoke to are incredibly supportive and encourage whilst ‘friends’ that I’ve known for years don’t even bother. This is not to say I expect my ‘friends’ to read every single post, share on Facebook, twitter & Instagram or even watch every YouTube video. The key word is ‘SUPPORT’. You don’t need to understand what I am doing to show support. The point is that we all have these ‘friends’, ‘best friends’ but what we should all ask ourselves is are they genuinely happy for you, do they want you to succeed, are they a source of encouragement, are they your cheerleader?

(The black blazer is from H&M and I'm pretty sure you can purchase something similar from any other high street store. I love wearing Nike or adidas tops simply because they are great quality as I often have a hard time with white tops fading or changing colour in the wash. I purchased the Nike high low top from urban outfitters but you can find something similar from JD sports, Nike.com and ASOS) 


(Ripped Jeans are so on trend and some people love them so people hate them. I clearly love them because they give an edgy touch to the outfit. I purchased these from ASOS and rolled up the bottoms because I personally feel they look better. I have to mention the amazing quality of these which is not the case for all the ASOS jeans I own. I sometimes have an issue ASOS brand jeans tearing in the groin area but these wash really well and so far no tearing has occurred so these are a thumbs up from me)

The title is ‘pay close attention to those not clapping’ because there are people out there waiting for your downfall. Calling someone a friend is just a label but look at there actions and the way in which they support you. Watch out for the people who lurk and stalk your social media but show little encouragement or support when they see you doing amazing things and moving up in your career. I could be wrong when saying this and you can disagree with me but in my personal opinion a lot of us women fail to support each other. Even giving a compliment is difficult for some. What is wrong with telling other women they are beautiful or you like their outfit for example. It does not make you weak but rather stronger because you are instilling confidence in another woman which in turn will encourage them to possibly give a compliment to another woman because they know the power of words. I slowly digress LOL. The point I am trying to make is if you see another woman doing good, tell her! Let her know that you see her hard work. Appreciate her hard and success AND if your own ‘friends’ show little support for your success be cautious. I just want to make it clear that these ‘friends’ are not necessarily bad people and often times they are kind, caring and hardworking themselves. However, in the mist of those cheering and clapping for you, there are many conspicuously silent. Not everyone means well!

Last but not least are these bomb boots from vagabond. These boots are my absolute fave although my feet were absolutely dead after wearing them all day. I don't have much to say about them other than they are perfect but a little uncomfortable if worn for an extended period of time. I purchased them from Urban outfitters but they can also be purchased directly from the vagabond website.


Do you have any ‘friends’ that are not clapping when you win? I would love to know your thoughts! Do you agree or disagree? Let’s have a discussion. Comment Below!


Stay Blessed, Be Blessed

Lizzie x
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  1. YESSS! Completely agree with everything you said. It's something that hit us quite recently and when you take a step back and look at who's truly supportive you begin to see the true meaning of support and love. Even though, they may not share the same interests as you, it's always nice to know your friends are proud of you and have got your back. It kinda makes you wonder "Wait why are these people who barely know me more supportive than those who I deem to be my best friends?" it's thought provoking!

    Lots of love! | Micah A Lee

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  3. This is exactly why I haven't told my closest friends about my blogging/my 'other' Instagram. I wanted to focus on myself, my success, my drive and to not get rained down on by the lack of encouragement for what I'm doing! It's happened far too often with other things so I've learned :)

    -Kim

    http://www.thecaramelchronicles.com

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    1. Its honestly so sad to not be able to tell the people closest you about your passion. However, I will say it allows me/you/us to connect with likeminded people who have similar interests. Its amazing how you can connect with people online who you've never met before. I appreciate you taking the time out to read and connect with the post x

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  4. You summed it up perfectly. This was something I noticed too once my career started to flourish. There are a lot of people who decide to hate instead of be inspired or supportive. It is almost as if they are hurt that we are doing something they can't do. So instead of being inspired to work harder, they in turn don't support it. It's a concept and behavior that just baffles me. But on the flip side, growing and building upon myself, I've found some incredibly, strong women who truly do support what I am doing. I am sharing your article on Facebook. I think this is going to help a lot of women who are experiencing this kind of growing pain (from being successful). Keep doing your thing gorgeous! XO, Ellese

    Rock.Paper.Glam.

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    1. I am so happy you were able to connect with this post. I don't understand how difficult it is to be supportive of one another. So much hatred in the world today, the least someone can do is show support & encouragement. Not that we need validation and approval but there is no greater feeling than someone telling you that what your doing is amazing or inspiring. It takes guts to put yourself out there. I appreciate you and your support for sharing this post on facebook. You are amazing x

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  5. I love the photos and I totally agree with that saying. I think it's so important to be supportive of others. You don't have to bring others down in order to be successful!

    Kim

    http://trendkeeper.me - pink statement wall & a wrap dress!

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    1. Thank you, I am glad I'm not the only one who feels this way x

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  6. Very well said, agreed!!
    You look stunning!
    Love, Nistha
    https://www.fashionistha.com/back-in-black/

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    1. Thank you for very much. I'm glad you were able to relate to this post x

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  7. I have a few friends like this, I think it's so stupid to act like this... Anyway, I love this outfit and location!

    http://violettedaily.com

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    1. Its a shame we have people like this around us and thank you x

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  8. your words are very true.. there are only a few people who really got your back and can rely on. it's a lesson to realize this and cut the one's out of your live that doesn't feel happiness for you, are proud or supportive. sad but true:)
    btw love your look and this colorful location:)
    xo Kathi

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    1. Yes I totally agree. It is only now that I am starting to realise this and Thank You x

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  9. I totally relate this to this post and I love the title of it. Such a great read hun xx

    http://www.thatnewdress.com

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    1. Thank you, I am glad you were able to relate to this post x

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  10. I totally have "friends" that don´t support me, it´s annoying and sad, but it also lets you see who your real, supportive friends are :)
    greetings from germany,
    Shanice
    http://texturecharmscolour.de

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    1. You are extremely right! Thank for taking the time out to read the post x

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  11. Friends need to be supportive of each other even if the interest topics are completely different. I mean even if my/your friends don't read all of our posts, the fact that they're sending good vibes spiritually means a lot.

    It's unfortunate that there are people waiting for other's downfall. It's unhealthy and what good does it do? I notice this being a trend on those who have poor self-image... Like they have to put down others to feel better about themselves. Not cool at all.

    I always like to show support for my friends, and even more when they stay humble despite the great things they achieved.

    Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this! It really clicked with me!

    https://exquisitely.me

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    1. Yes I 100% agree with you. I am happy you could connect with this post, it just goes to show that a lot of us feel the same way x

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  12. I have a lot of friends that don´t really read my blog or watch my videos. I don´t think it is because they don´t support me, it is just not their topic. I don´t applaud them collecting stamps either, as example. If they don´t try to talk me out of it and keep up with me rambling on about it occasionally, I am fine.

    Linda, Libra, Loca: Beauty, Baby and Backpacking

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    1. Yes you do have a very valid point x

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  13. Rocking this look! Surround yourself with people who will support you no matter what <3

    Vivian | LIVE . IN . LOVE
    IG | @viviyunn_

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  14. Great read! And loving the sporty chic vibes you've got going on :)


    Agnes x

    BlvckBee.Com

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  15. Love the graffiti behind you and your rocker outfit. The blazer with it is awesome.
    Thankfully I don't have friends like these, but totally understand what you're saying. If they aren't as supportive you can always ask them why or tell them that their support would really mean a lot to you.

    www.fashionradi.com

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  16. Ah this is actually so interesting, I do find it funny how people I haven't spoken to for yours are some of my biggest supporters online.

    Ash | www.liakadatravel.com

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